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NOTICES WITHIN THE LAST 49 DAYSbaby raccoon - July 25, 2010 - Vashon, WA: A couple of weeks ago I started feeding some raccoons who were visiting my yard. Amongst them was a mother and her three kits. A few nights ago I noticed that one of the kits had a trap on its left front leg. Other than that it appeared to be doing pretty well. I knew it could not, in the long run, survive with the trap on its leg, so I decided to catch it in a carrier and take it to a wildlife rehabber nearby. After a couple of long nights (early into the morning) I finally managed to catch the little one in a dog container. We spent an interesting night; I slept on the floor next to it to try to calm it when it got upset. They make very interesting vocalizations. I felt like a traitor taking it from its Mom, but wanted to help it. We went to the rehabber early this morning. Her brave husband pulled the little one out of the container with heavy duty gloves and restrained it while his wife, the rehabber, took the “rat trap” off its leg. She immediately looked at me and said “It needs to be euthanized.” I became very upset and the next little while was not pretty. She ended up sedating it and amputating the leg, agreeing she would have the vet that oversees her license take a look at it later in the day to see if he felt it could be saved. I learned at 6:18pm that they had euthanized it (that’s not when they did it, and I don’t know the time they did…message came in email), saying the infection was gangrenous, the bones in wrist had been shattered, and that it could not be saved. I ask predominantly for prayers for the little raccoon, but also for understanding for all of us involved…I feel in great turmoil because of my actions. I thank you for the prayers. I also ask for and end to cruelty to animals. David Petit - July 22, 2010 - Tara Mandala, Pagosa Springs: The following was written by Anne Klein & Harvey Aronson: It is with heavy hearts that we write to share very sad news. David Pettit, Lama Tsultrim's husband and the chief force behind building the wondrous physical expression of blessings at Tara Mandala, died last night. All of us who have visited Tara Mandala have benefitted from David's enormous energy, skill, and heart-felt love of creating ground for dharma practice. Even those of us who have not been there have benefited from what has emanated from there. ... David is a deep dharma brother to all of us, and we pray as well for Lama Tsultrim and her strength, to continue her and their work, for their families, and for all at Tara Mandala. He will be deeply missed. Update from Tara Mandala: Dear Friends, Lama Tsultrim, her family, and the Tara Mandala community regretfully announce the death of Lama's beloved husband, David Petit, on July 22nd, 2010. The cremation will take place at the stupa at Tara Mandala at dawn (5:50 am) on July 24th, 2010. Everyone is welcome to attend. In lieu of flowers please make offerings to Tara Mandala for which David gave his heart and life force. He died in his sleep of a heart attack. David was a great practitioner so we don't need to worry about him. He spent the last twenty years of his life in the constant accumulation of merit for the Dharma. The night before his death he was joyful and at peace. David is survived by his wife, Lama Tsultrim Allione, his siblings Lenard Petit, Leo Petit, Jasma Petit, Bobbi Petit, and Chris Petit, his step-chidren, Sherab Kloppenburg, Aloka Sands, and Costanzo Allione, and his father, Robert Petit. If you would like to offer prayers, blessings, or condolences of words or images, please email Lizzy at info@taramandala.org. These will be placed at the stupa. You can also mail them to Tara Mandala, PO Box 3040, Pagosa Springs, CO 81147. David Petit (1955-2010) would have been fifty-five August 11th. He was born in Salem, Massachusetts, the third of six children of Peg and Robert Petit, and later moved to New Hampshire with his family. At the age of sixteen he went to Europe and began studying in the Anthroposophic communities in England and Germany where he graduated from college, stayed for thirteen years, and became a famous performer and teacher of Eurythmy. He had his own dance company there with his first wife Leslie, and then they returned to the United States and were divorced in 1987. In 1989, through the Waldorf School in Springs Valley, New York, David met Lama Tsultrim. It was instant recognition when he heard her name mentioned by another teacher in the corridor of the school. Her children attended this school and David taught them theater and Eurythmy. After they met, they fell deeply in love, and this love has gone on for the last 21 years. David took on the responsibilities of co-parenting Lama Tsultrim’s children, being her partner in all ways, and supporting her vision. First, he helped build a stupa dedicated to Tara at their house in Valley Cottage, New York. Then, together they found the land that became Tara Mandala on Sept 18, 1993. At Tara Mandala, the first land project was building another stupa, which David did with his own hands and the assistance of a few people from the native rocks of the land. It is dedicated to Nyala Pema Duddul, was completed in 1999, and consecrated by Namkhai Norbu Rinpoche. From the first yurt and tepee to the incredible Tara Temple, nothing at Tara Mandala would exist without David. He also kept watch over the finances and worked in his own way with the spirits and animals of the land. To this end, during ten years of outdoor kitchen every summer, there were never any disturbances from bears. David has been a pillar of strength, forbearance and constant support for Lama Tsultrim and her family, who all adored him. One thing that many people do not know about David is that he was a very great practitioner of Dzog Chen. In conversations with Tulku Sang-ngag Rinpoche during the past twenty-four hours, Rinpoche told Lama Tsultrim that she should tell people this. He was an advanced practitioner of Tögel, and in the last two years he moved ahead through the four visions rapidly. A few days before he died, he told Lama Tsultrim that he felt his body was disappearing, dissolving. Rinpoche suggests that everyone attempt to mix their minds with his mind, as he was definitely liberated in the Bardo of Dharmata, and he has complete confidence in this. If the Sangha does this it will benefit them greatly. In the last weeks Lama Tsultrim and David had many particularly poignant and deeply felt times, with expression of profound and ever increasing love. At the same time as his practice was developing extremely rapidly to the point where he was experiencing Tögel visions day and night, David was very burdened by worries about Tara Mandala and surrounding issues, trying to make Tara Mandala grow in a good and stable way, and both he and Lama Tsultrim experienced strong obstacles arising at Tara Mandala this summer. Because of this, Lama Tsultrim called a meeting of some core Tara Mandala people about a week ago, and had asked for certain practices to be started. Now these practices will continue along with the Zhitro practices for David. If the Sangha could keep a strong protector’s practice and Chöd going with the energy sent to Tara Mandala this would be very helpful. The ultimate practice to do is Prajna Paramita, and in the central nature of mind portion blend your mind with David's in the boundless space of the Dharmata. If you have Dzinpa Rangdröl Dharmapalas, please do that also along with Zhitro every Thursday until Sept 9. If you can do this Lama Tsultrim would be grateful. You can use the attached photo of David for Zhitro and other practices, or use a photo from the online album of David. It is natural that when something very positive is taking place negativities also arise. However, the suddenness of David’s death and the indications before it show he certainly has been liberated. More difficult is what will be missing at Tara Mandala and for Lama Tsultrim and her family in David’s absence. Please do what you can to help to support the growth and stabilization of Machig Labdrön’s lineage. Lama Tsultrim will go into retreat shortly after the cremation and will remain in retreat until the Drub Chen. The family retreat will be held by Tara Mandala staff, as well as Charlotte Rotterdam, our beloved former director, who will teach the adult portion of the retreat. Lama Tsultrim has asked Debra Travis, a warm, knowledgeable teacher highly esteemed in the California Sangha who is moving to Tara Mandala in early August, to teach the Sutrayana and Mahayana portions of the Three Yana Retreat. Lama Tsultrim requests as many Sangha as possible attend the Drub Chen where special ceremonies will be done for David. Blessings from all of us at Tara Mandala. Janos Torok - July 13, 2010 - Budapest, Hungary: This is the father of Csilla Torok, who is a student of Tsultrim Allione, and a member of Pema Kilaya Sangha. Csilla writes that she spent the last three weeks with her father before he passed away, and that he suffered greatly. She is doing shitro for him, and requests others to join her in this. Jennifer Mauro - July 08, 2010 - Seattle: Jennifer led an extremely troubled, lonely life and suffered a great deal. She leaves three children in their 20s and an ex-husband. Your practice for them all is greatly appreciated. Erica Leopold Laurin Andrews - June 18, 2010 - Vancouver, BC: Leo's grandmother, Lucille Laurin, wrote: "Our darling Leo died this afternoon ... in my arms all morning, breathing became slower and slower and just stopped.. very peaceful..." Please include in prayers his twin sister, Stella, who also sustained some of same birth trauma, and his mother, Emmanuelle, and his father, Russell. 黄世祥 - June 11, 2010 - Singapore: ANNIVERSARIES NEXT 7 DAYSof them 63 Lebanese civilians 23 children. Cana, Lebanon - July 30, 2006 - Lebanon: Christina Fezio - July 30, 2004 - Stoughton, Mass. U.S.A.: John Burroughs - July 30, 2003 - Sugar Pine, California, USA: John was a dear family friend of Lesley and Don Tinker. John and Don and I kind of inherited each other as friends after my father passed away 5-1/2 years ago -- John and my father were very close friends! We remember John for his constant giving to others--especially of time and friendship, his laughter and humor, common sense approach to life, his love of his wife and family, and love of all nature. John was very inspiring during the last 1-1/2 years of his life, since being diagnosed with cancer. During it all, he never missed an opportunity to be up-beat, connecting from his heart with folks. Always with a twinkle in his eyes. Don and I will miss him greatly. We wish him well and send smiles and a twinkle in the eye to him from our hearts. Lesley Tinker |
ASPIRATIONSFor Friends and Family - This free service is offered with the hope that it may help unite dedicated end of life practitioners with those most in need of their compassionate efforts. When requests are posted to this section, efforts are made to notify the appropriate practitioners via email. However, participation in all this is strictly voluntary. It's possible that there might not be practitioners for some requests and/or they may lack the time to devote to practice. If you wish a greater certainty that the requested practices will be done, please also consider formally sponsoring the desired ceremonies. |
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